8.10.14 Presenting at the TCAs
|Me:||I just watched a show about how successful (i.e. college educated) black women are not getting married.|
|Him:||Why is that a show? What's the problem? A black woman is better off by herself than with a black man that will bring her down. There's no point in getting married unless it's about mutual love and respect.|
|Me:||Well a lot of the black men on the show said that the reason black women are single is because they expect too much.|
|Him:||Psh. Black women do not expect too much! What is a black woman supposed to do? She is educated. She has her life in order. And she is supposed to get with any old man because he didn't get his life together but still feels he is entitled to any woman he wants?|
|Me:||Well they said that you have to look at a man's potential.|
|Him:||That's what they want you to think so that you don't require anything in actuality from them. You look at who a man is. Not who he says he will be.|
|Me:||The show also talked about why a lot of men cheat. They said it's because women were not keeping them happy or not sexually doing what they want.|
|Him:||That's ridiculous. There's no reason for anybody to cheat. If a man is grounded then he will love his partner enough not to cheat.|
|Me:||They also said that you need to make a man feel like a man.|
|Him:||If I am a man then why would I need a woman to make me feel like a man?|
|Me:||I don't know.|
|Him:||A real man does not need a woman to make him feel like a man. He is a man, isn't he? Men who say that have an inferiority complex.|
|Me:||Well they were saying that they need to feel like they wear the pants in the relationship.|
|Him:||Look. A man does not feel threatened by anyone unless he does not have his own life together. And in that case he will be threatened whether a woman lays down and lets him walk all over him or if she makes more money or anything else.|
can we just talk about this moment right here?
luke starts wailing on vader and then cuts his arm off and sees the wiring inside. he looks at his mechanical hand and then back to vader’s and then it all just comes together for him. luke was almost willing to kill vader in order to save his sister’s life (he only started really going at vader after he threatened leia, before that he continuously said ‘i will not fight you’) just like anakin was willing to slaughter all the jedi in order to save padme’s. they will both do anything to protect the ones they love.
once luke realizes this and all the pieces of the puzzle come together he turns to palaptine and throws his lightsaber aside and refuses to turn to the dark side and THEN says my favorite line in the whole series, “i am a jedi, like my father before me.” luke refuses to take the path vader did, he wants to be like anakin, not vader. he wants to be good and save his friends but he will not kill his father and join the emperor. he is willing to sacrifice himself for the ideal that he believes in and more importantly in the memory of who his father was.